Dear Frankie: Sextember Special

Dear Can't Be Bothered,
It’s not hard for guys is it - they only need to think about a pair of breasts and they are ready for action! But us girls are built differently, and we need a lot more care and attention for our bodies to ‘prepare’ itself for sex. Unfortunately you are probably both at the stage where you think it isn’t going to happen so you don’t even bother, but not many relationships can survive without sex (even though it isn’t everything!). What you need to do is set aside some proper time for some exploring. Set the mood with candles and give each other a nice massage, I like Durex 2in1 Lubricant, and then see where it leads. Durex also has a great range of toys for you that may help ‘speed’ things along. Get your partner to put on a Durex Play Vibrations ring!

 

 

Dear Unsatisfied,
Guys would probably almost always be a ‘wham, bam thank you ma’am’ if you would let them, but that’s not fair! Sex should be a two way street (excuse the pun!)

Try a few things, get him to spend a bit more time on foreplay and getting you in the mood. Maybe even help him out with that, you know where it feels good. Another idea is to get him to wear a Durex Performa Condom, which have been designed to provide longer lasting pasion and increase arousal. This means more excitement for both you and him! This unique product is designed to control climax, for longer and steamier sex. Perfect!

 

 
Dear Frustrated,

Its cliché but size doesn’t matter, it’s all about how you use it. Try a few different positions (click here for some steamy moves); you might feel it more if he is coming in at a different angle.

And you need to help him out by bringing some ‘tools’ into the bedroom. Durex Play Vibrations rings go on the base of his penis, and while he is inside you, the little vibrating ring touches you in all the right places! Advance to the Durex Play Ultra…..giving you longer to enjoy its fun!

 

Firstly there is probably nothing wrong with you, two in five kiwi women (46%) admitted to painful sex caused by vaginal dryness (but if you are worried, get the doctor to give you a quick check-up next time you are there).

Basically you aren’t producing enough of your own personal lubricant, which can cause friction. This can be because of a number of reasons such as the the pill or stress. I would try Durex 2in1 Lubricant which both you and your partner can massage onto each other. It will help you to feel a lot more sexual, and makes things go together a lot easier.

 

Unfortunately porn has almost become so normal, that some guys think that every girl should be up for anything! But it shouldn’t be expected, and I mean are we getting paid for it? That’s beside the point though. Maybe some guys just want a little bit more adventure that the missionary position each time, so surprise someone special by bringing in a few toys to spice things up. Start with something simple, such as the Durex Play Ultra, a powerful vibrating ring that will give both you and your man a whole lot of extra pleasure!

It’s super versatile – its usage is only limited by your imagination! You could use it with the power pod at the top of his penis (wicked for you) or underneath his penis (a bonus for him). Once you’re comfortable with that – take things up a notch and try spicier toys such as a the Durex Play Little Gem or the Durex Play Wand

 

In the Durex Survey released last year, only 51% of kiwis admitted they regularly orgasm, with more men achieving it than women. So DON’T feel you are alone.

You probably just need a little bit more stimulation before sex to get you in the mood better. You may need to do a bit of your own exploring as well, click here to check out our guide to The Big O and try the Durex Play Wand (an ergonomically shaped vibrator) and Play Little Gem that is a vibrating extension of your hand.

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