How to Bring the Butterflies Back

Get creative, maybe even scare yourself silly
Go skydiving, explore a nearby town or book concert tickets for a band you both like. Just doing something fresh and different wakes up your spirit in a way that your normal routine can’t. You probably won’t bring back the butterflies by sitting at home with a DVD. Experiencing a new event with your man will help you associate excitement and fun with them. Medical experts actually liken the body's fear response to sexual arousal — our pulse quickens and we break out in a sweat.

We get a rush from being scared in a somewhat controlled environment, and when we do it with a partner, we're brought together by the feeling of having conquered our fears hand in hand. If jumping from planes really isn’t your thing, maybe try something else thrilling like rock climbing or water skiing!

Relive your first date
Your first date was a mystery and you didn’t know where it would go. You both were nervous, and would kiss for ages because you didn’t know how to stop. But even though you know how that mystery turned out, returning to the scene of that first date can bring back some of those old feelings. Get your man the after shave he was wearing, and do your best to start over!

Ask questions about each others lives. Remember the butterflies in your stomach? Remember lying awake at night thinking about their cute little smile? Take yourself back to the days when they didn’t have any faults, when everything was brand new and the possibilities for your relationship were unknown and exciting. Just remembering this stage of your relationship will help bring you back to that “puppy love” frame of mind.

Schedule at least one “date night” a week
Set aside an hour or two every week where certain topics are off limits: chores, work stress, ongoing relationship issues, etc. Use this time to talk about your plans for the future or to re-connect after a busy week. Don’t worry about where the date is – have a glass of wine together in the living room, or schedule breakfast early on the weekends. If you have got littlies, hire the neighbourhood babysitter for the night.
The point is to make some time in your weekly routine for the positive things in your relationship.

Often we get so caught up with our responsibilities, pressures of life that we take it for granted that the other person will always be around and before you know it six months have gone by and you have no idea when was the last time you actually had a conversation with your partner.

The bottom line: don’t take your relationship for granted, and get creative. Every relationship goes through stages, and after the initial rush wears off, we just have to get a little resourceful when it comes to putting the magic back into our relationship. But it is possible to get those initial feelings of love and tenderness back - and it’s usually pretty fun! Just don’t ever tell your partner that you are bored, it’s likely they would be offended! Take the situation into your hands at the beginning and hopefully he will respond positively!