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 All guys have a few bad habits that we just need to learn to deal with (otherwise we would probably be alone forever!)...
However there are some habits that cross the line, and unfortunately we often don’t find these out until we’ve got feelings and emotions that are too hard to wriggle out from.
But you need to realise that you deserve to be treated right and with respect. So if any of the following are familiar… Think seriously about ditching that dud!
 1: Control freakThis monster can come in many different shapes and forms, so beware. It will start with a few little comments here and there, and maybe a bit of the old, “aww, do you have to go out with your friends? I wanted to spend tonight with you!”. As you let it happen more and more, you will gradually lose grip of being able to plan your weekend and outings with the girls. Together time is important, but it needs to be balanced with time doing your own thing. He can’t tell you who you can/can’t see, you'll only lose friends and your individuality. You only have one life; why in the world would you let someone else be in charge of it?! 2: Name calling
Even if he does say sorry every time after he does it, it still isn’t right. It is degrading and after awhile you might actually begin to accept them. It is a form of abuse and it’s not the behaviour of someone that loves you.  3: Did someone say slave? Starting to feel like his personal slave as you do his washing, cooking, make his lunch, buy his undies, tidy his room, change the sheets etc... Well news flash, unfortunately you aren’t his girlfriend anymore; you’re his mum. Believe me, although you might not mind it now, you will resent him for it in the future. 4: Physical
Hopefully this is pretty straight to the point. It is NOT EVER right for anyone to hit you, let alone your partner. DON’T EXCUSE it, and get away from him straight away. 5: Humiliation Does he make jokes about you in front of his and your friends? Does he tease you and tell stories that should only be between the two of you? That is SO not right, because how does it make you feel? Not so hot we’re guessing…
6: Druggie!
Don’t think you have ever been around your man without him being high on something? Sorry, but he probably loves his drugs more than anything else, including you! While he is young, it may not interfere too much with your life, but the longer it goes on it can create physiological, financial and not too mentional legal problems in the future. Don’t put up with this as it will only end in tears. 
7: A leopard never changes his spots OK, so mistakes happen. But they don’t happen over and over again. No one will change just because someone else wants them to, and it takes a lot of internal concentration to break habits. If you continually take him back, he probably won’t have that drive to change, but if you walk away he will hopefully love you enough to realise enough is enough. 8: Sugar-mumma
He never has any money so you have to pay up for everything? Or maybe he does have the cash, but just doesn’t want to spend any of his when he can spend yours? This is definitely a no-no! If he has a job, why do you have to support him? And if he doesn’t have a job, well he should do his hardest to get one! Sorry, he is just using you (even though he may love you to, he can’t expect you to continue paying for everything, he has no respect for you).  9: Second in line to mates?
This is a hard one, because most girls experience it in relationships. Sure, having time apart with your friends is important, but what if you never see him on the weekend because he is either watching or playing sport, drinking and playing Playstation with his mates? This is not good behaviour and you don’t have to put up with it. If he doesn’t want to spend time with you, why does he want a girlfriend? You need to either discuss it with him, or just leave one night when he is out with the boys and I think he will get the drift. 10: Liar, liar pants on fire!
Finding out someone is lying to you causes a yucky, scary, sick feeling in your stomach. Especially if it is someone close to you. You have to ask why do they need to lie and what are they covering up that could possibly hurt you? How can you believe anything they say if lies always seem to mix into conversation? It will only end up in heartache, so get out before you get in too deep. Again, don’t excuse this behaviour, it is not the efforts of someone who truly loves and cares about how you feel.
Erin Boyle |
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