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We love McDreamy. We lust after McSteamy. But no one likes a McStalker…
Like George off Grey’s Anatomy; some guys just don’t get the message. One minute he’s that guy you grabbed a coffee with before work, bumped into at the supermarket, or met at a family gathering. Next minute he’s calling you non-stop, sending you flowers and making you regret ever talking to him.
‘Welcome to Stalkerville’ is a sign that we are seeing everywhere, but where’s the exit route? Who are these strange, obsessive men that are invading our lives and why do they do it? According to sexualharassmentsupport.org (a site I hope none of you have to visit), there are seven types of stalkers out there...
The rejected stalker is that creepy ex of yours who still doesn’t get the message that it’s over, despite the fact that you ended it five years ago. He or she is the most common stalker, who is most likely after revenge, reconciliation or both. They are generally narcissistic types who can’t handle being rejected.
The resentful stalker may be someone you know or a complete stranger. They usually stalk someone who has upset them considerably (knowingly or unknowingly), with intentions to frighten the victim. This type of stalker is probably as close to the ‘scary movie stalker’ as you get. They are the sort to leave you letters, watch your every move and break into your house.
The predatory stalker is the one that we probably find scariest, so thankfully it is the least common. This type of stalker is out to sexually or physically abuse its victim. They usually have direct contact with the victim whilst stalking them, so hopefully this makes them easier to detect and catch. Also, they have poor social skills and are lacking in intelligence, so that’s on our side as well!
The intimacy seeker is the classic, delusional stalker who firmly believes that they and their victim are ‘meant to be together.’ They are likely to think that you reciprocate their feelings because they blow everything out of proportion – 'hello' in English basically means ‘I want you’ in their minds.
The incompetent suitor is the guy that we can’t help but feel sorry for. He has no dating skills whatsoever and, like many of the other stalkers, is under the delusion that the victim is attracted to him. Fortunately, although they may try to come onto you, they will not respond violently and once threatened by legal action or counselled they will quickly back off.
The erotomaniac and morbidly infatuated stalker is 100% sure that their victim is head-over-heels in love with them. They are usually very paranoid and often choose someone who has a higher social status than them. They will often try to approach their victims and act as if the two of them have ‘something going on.’
These are obsessions at their worst. If you’ve got a McStalker on your case then read nzgirl’s guide on how to get rid of them by clicking here.
As for those of you who are lucky enough to be living stalker-free, keep an eye out for these secret McMales and make sure you don’t give them room to move an inch! Sometimes being chased isn’t fun…
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