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Even the most seasoned, long term, live-in couple needs a night alone once in a while - and I don’t mean a couch potato crime show evening, nor a session of supermarket shopping followed by Laguna Beach.
At least once a month, it is incredibly important that you and your man get all spruced up for each other and head out for some romance.
.jpg) Why?
When couples are in the early stages of a relationship, a lot of effort is spent impressing one another. The problem with even the most loving relationship is that after a while, you can become complacent. Boys start doing things like breaking wind, burping or scratching their bums in front of their women. Us girls don’t bother to brush our hair in the weekends, or shave our legs all winter. The result is a complete lack of romance. You may think you are being ‘real’, but in reality you appear like a couple of pensioners - beyond caring, and control of your bodies.
What?
Go out. It doesn’t matter where so much, as long as you take the time to get dressed up, it is just the two of you, and you spend at least some of the time talking and enjoying each others’ company. Buy something new to make sure you feel sexy or surprise him with a new haircut. Make him feel special. .jpg)
When?
Put aside at least one night per month. Some couples do one night per week, but date nights can be expensive. You could take turns at paying for it (even if the money’s coming out of a joint account anyway!). This adds to the romance, as one person is wined and dined on the other’s back each time. Even the most equality-driven of us will admit there is something nice about going out and not paying a cent now and again.
Where?
Movies, dinners, picnics, walks, theatre, gigs - as I have mentioned, it doesn’t matter. If you have different interests, it could be a good idea to take turns choosing the date night location, but for the boys out there, I must stress that a rugby game doesn’t constitute a date, even if your girlfriend is a rugby buff. Even if you end up somewhere noisy, it is best to start with a quiet place, like a restaurant, where you can catch up and talk. Then it is okay to move on to a gig or even a game at this stage, for some fun and socialising.
 How? In this context, 'how' stands for ‘how to make it a regular thing’. The first date night should be easy to organise. Pick a restaurant and convince him to take you there - or take him there as a surprise.
From there, suggest the date night occur once per month (for starters). It may take some convincing, but you should be able to wrangle a regular date night after he has been on a few and realised how much fun the two of you can have.
The fact is, you are together for a reason. You got along so well at the beginning that you decided to continue your relationship. You are still together now because, deep down, you love each other, even if you don’t show it so much any more. Date nights bring it all back!
Do it, tonight!
Camille Butler |
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